1. Are they twins?
Why, yes. Yes, they are. (Then people respond, “I thought so...but they’re so big”. Apparently twins grow just like real babies.)
2. Oh, you finally got your girl!
Yes, but with 3 older brothers, she hasn’t figured out she’s a girl yet.
3. I don’t know how you do it.
I try not to think about it.
4. Are they identical?
Ummm, no. This one’s a boy and this one’s a girl.
5. Did you use fertility?
No. (thought: but if I had I’m not sure I would share the details of my personal reproduction with a perfect stranger)
6. Do you have twins in your family?
I do now.
7. How much did they weigh when they were born?
He was 6 lbs, she was 5.11. (Which usually prompts the response, “Wow, that’s a lot of baby”. My translation: “Wow, you must have been HUGE...” Yep, I was pretty much bursting with babies).
8. Do they have their own language?
Yes, English
9. Oh, a boy and a girl, you’re done now, right?
I find this question a little presumptive- see #5- and you should see their face when I answer, “Actually I have four. But, yes, we are done.”
10. Were they full term?
Luckily, yes (or close enough, just one day shy). At which point I am guaranteed to hear a story about someone they know who had twins...
But it goes with the territory. And the best part is that when you meet someone else with twins you have an instant friend with whom to share stories, co-miserate and exchange admiration. Having twins isn’t easy, but I feel privileged to be among some of the strongest women I know.
2 comments:
Thank you for this! My twins are just hitting four months and I've been answering the same questions since the first day I brought them out in public!
Oh, Beth, you are just getting started! You'll be amazed at the things you hear...I'm sure you'll have some new ones to add to the list if you don't already! Congrats on the twins- it's hard, but it's a remarkable journey.
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